“My dear, dear, dear God – where are you when it hurts? Why do you keep on allowing people to hurt us?”
No matter where we go, we find that people are the same everywhere. There are those who are so easy to deal with and then there are very, very difficult characters; there are also those who are ‘toxic.’
All of us, I think, may have to deal or even live with difficult people. And sometimes, we just don’t have any choice.
People hurt us in varying measures. And there are those times too when we feel every single body are against us.
We need to understand that:
- Very few people intentionally hurt us. Even so their scope to seriously damage us is very limited – that is, if we do not end up over-reacting.
- Some people do not even know that they have hurt us or are hurting us. Talking to them will often just surprise them that they have actually hurt us.
- And most of the people that are hurting us are just helplessly venting it out on us. It is basically them, their hurts, unresolved issues, pent up anger, etc. And one just happens to be in close proximity to them – to get all the blows. It seems to you that you are walking on egg shells because their life experiences have reduced their fuses so very over sensitive.
Now, what are the options before us:
Option A – Have nothing to do with such people. It is actually not an option at all in this real fallen world.
Option B – Escapism. It is the most exploited option, in that you don’t let them get so near you or you try your best to avoid them. Though this is a comfortable option to take it will not allow us to grow into the person that God has purposed for us.
Option C – Face it in resignation. It is also common for people to just endure; however, it only gets them low and they are filled with self pity, poor self image, self defeat and all such ills.
Option D – Face it with the consolation of Jesus Christ. It is this option that we as Christ’s followers should choose. Firstly, in imitation of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ; and secondly, because we know that we have more than enough consolation in our Lord, so much love, and strength that it will only bring us through victorious, for His glory and our very best.